The Present Moment is Free from Fear

Today I wanted to share a short passage from the book, “Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm” by Thich Hnat Hanh. Hanh writes, The Present Moment is Free from Fear “When we are not fully present, we are not really living. We’re not really there, either for our loved ones or for ourselves….

My New Hobby is WORRYING?

This week I reflected on the fact that I haven’t spent time on any of my hobbies. You might think that during a lockdown I would have ample time to pursue all my favorite hobbies like playing music, developing recipes, gardening, writing, meditating, and hiking on trails next to my house. There are so many…

Working from Home with Kids During a Lockdown

As a psychologist, I’ve identified 8 strategies to help parents more effectively work from home with their children. With children out of school, no sports, no camps, no activities, and no playdates it is a tremendous upheaval and disruption. At first kids will enjoy having no school or activities but in the coming weeks it…

Understanding Thought Addictions

When we think about an addiction, we usually think about addictions to drugs or alcohol, gambling, sex, video games or even food. We rarely think about addictions to our thoughts. Many of my clients have thought addictions. I have even suffered from a thought addiction. In graduate school, I threw myself into my studies and…

Navigating Conflict with Unreasonable People

Everyone knows that it’s impossible to avoid conflict in our personal and professional life. At times, the people in our lives can be completely unreasonable when it comes to conflict. If you are facing conflict with an unreasonable person, it is critical to find effective conflict management strategies. As a psychologist, I spend countless hours…

Eliminate the Word Worry from your Vocabulary in 2020!

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” – Eckhart Tolle If someone asked you, “Do you think worrying will change your situation?” I am sure you would say, “No,” so why keep doing it? Worry never changes anything. Start listening to yourself and other people and each time you hear, “I’m worried,” say…

15 + Power Thoughts

Our thoughts have everything to do with our life from how we manage difficult situations to how we cope with ordinary life challenges to the extent we keep our peace when faced with a crisis to how we handle mundane daily tasks. Most of us do not realize: Our thoughts can make us powerful or…

Changing Emotions by Acting Opposite 

Most of us are controlled by our emotions but do not realize it. Take a moment to think of an example when your emotions stopped you from doing something you really wanted to do or made you avoid a person or situation. Maybe you wanted to sing karaoke with your friends but you were too…

Transform Negativity with Dialectical Thinking

The reason most of us feel stressed in life is because of the way we think. Our thoughts have everything to do with how we feel each day. For example, if you think negative thoughts, you will feel negative. If you think positive thoughts, you will feel positive. What if it was possible to use…